The Deportation Talk


Talking to your parent/guardian about their legal status is a really hard conversation to have - for both you and them.  However, with what's going on in the news, even if your parent/guardian never mentioned that they were undocumented, you should be the one to start the conversation and simply ask about it. 

One easy way to start the conversation is simply by asking: 

Could we sit down and talk about your legal status? I want to know more about the situation and help us prepare as a family

You may find that even by asking that question, your guardian answers that they are in fact legal in the country, in which case, you don't have to worry so much. However, if your parent/guardian starts off by saying that they are undocumented, it's important you have a whole family talk about what to do. 

The entire conversation doesn't have to be about logistics and how to prepare.  In fact, it can be a good opportunity to learn more about your parent/guardian's life before they came to the United States.  Below is a list of what to cover during the initial part of the deportation talk:


  1. Ask your parent/guardian about their legal status here in the U.S.-some families don't tell their children if they are undocumented because they don't want to worry them. However, there is actually stuff that you can be doing to help, so it's important to know. 
  2. Ask about what life was like in their native country, and what family you have there-not only is it interesting to know more about your background, but one of the few options that you have if your parent/guardian is deported is going back to your native country. Learning more about what life is like there, and what kind of family is already living there, will help you and your family figure out if that's a good option for you.  
  3. Ask them why they left- this also works to determine if moving to your parent/guardians native country with them is a good idea. Some people move because their country is dangerous, or they were living in poverty, in which case, they may recommend that you stay in the U.S. and live with a different family (and you will want to have a say in who they choose).

Once you ask them these questions, ask them what they believe the best option would be, try asking them: 


What do you think should be my plan? Should I come with you to another country or stay here?

Once it is decided whether or not you are planning on staying in the U.S., it's time to move onto the logistics of the preparedness plan-click the button below for that information.